Overcoming Being a Writing Perfectionist & July Round-Up

I have a confession to make. I am a perfectionist when it comes to writing. I usually want a piece or paper to be absolutely perfect before anyone else lays eyes on it. My writing process itself involves lots of re-reading and self-editing to get the wording I feel conveys my point. And this extensive review doesn’t just happen when I am writing, it also happens before I even put pen to paper. (Or I guess fingers to keys in today’s day and age.) I may have an idea for something to write, but if that idea is not fully formed, I have trouble even just getting started and coming back to the piece when my mind has figured out what I want to say. 

My last post here on the blog was a few weeks ago, and while plenty has been going on and I’ve had plenty of ideas, the writing perfectionist in me hasn’t let any of that see the light of day on the blog. For example, sometimes I would have an idea for a post, but think, “Nah, no one wants to read that.” Other times I would get preoccupied that I didn’t have any pearls of wisdom to share about an event that occurred, and therefore decided it wasn’t worth posting.   

I realize now, though, that if I’m going to actually do this blog thing, I’ve got to get past this and post with a bit more regularity. This doesn’t mean I’m going to start posting about everything that happens, (“Hey guys! Stubbed my toe! This sucks! Happy Monday!!”) or that I am going to lower the quality of my posts, but I am going to try to give myself a little breathing room and keep in mind that not everything I post has to be ground breaking, earth shattering, or cerebral.

With that, I want to give everyone a July round up of what has been happening in Casa Tenenbaum.

  • We had our first visitors! Jason’s parents came down for a few days and stayed at a nearby hotel. It was nice to see them, show them a few places we have discovered in our short time here, and explore a few new places. 

  • I went to Raleigh Supercon, which is a comic book, anime, fantasy, sci-fi, and generally all things nerd convention. They have panels, celebrities you can meet, games, events, and lots of great shopping. It was huge. I indulged and bought a few souvenirs. I enjoyed a panel that was a discussion on superhero justice – right up my alley as a lawyer.  But my favorite thing about Supercon, and these types of conventions in general, was the cosplayers. (For anyone who may not know, I will save you a Google search – cosplay is where people dress up as characters from shows, movies, books, comics, etc.) Here are a few pictures of my favorites, but more photos can be found at our Instagram account, o_tenenbaum

I am Groot.


I am the law!


Loki giving an interview about his impending conquering of the human race.



  • Jason and I attended an alumni event for his college at a Durham Bulls game. The people we met were very nice and the Bulls are the minor league affiliate of my baseball team, the Tampa Bay Rays, so I was excited to see them play.

  • Jason and I went out to a comedy club and saw Brian Posehn, who was HILARIOUS. 

  • We decided to take the plunge and a booked a trip for our first anniversary to a place that is on both of our bucket lists – Japan. (I guess our “paper” anniversary is plane tickets, haha.) We’ll be there at the beginning of September and are in the process of planning the trip now. Currently the plan is to see Tokyo, Kyoto, and Osaka. We are also a bit ambitious and are planning to climb Mt. Fuji. Feel free to leave any tips, suggestions, or recommendations for the trip in the comments!

  • On a less happy note, I had my first time being sick in North Carolina this month. It was a head cold and let me tell you, it knocked me out. I’m still recovering at this point – I feel better, but the cough won’t go away yet. I’m also currently suffering from some kind of stomach bug or maybe I ate something that did not agree with me. Not winning on the health front this month, unfortunately. Hopefully I can turn the corner on all of this soon.

Besides for all the above, I managed to do a fair amount of cooking in the month of July, so stay tuned for a similar round-up style post of my culinary adventures from the month. 

Did you guys have any fun adventures in July? Or maybe you also suffer from my perfectionist writer’s ailment? Feel free to share in the comments!

It’s Not Goodbye, It’s Just I’ll See You Later

I think no blog about uprooting your life and moving from one area of the country to another would be complete without a post commemorating the goodbyes, even though I strongly believe that these send offs were not “goodbye”s, but just “I’ll see you later”s. (I think the fact that I myself took no photos at any of these get-togethers proves that sentiment – no pictures needed, I’ll see you soon! The one above is from the family get together, taken by a very nice employee at the restaurant at the request of Jason’s family.)

We were so blessed to have so many people from different areas of our life come together to wish us good luck. Unfortunately, we could not see everybody we wanted to before we left, which is something I feel bad about, but we will do our best see you guys on our next visit to NY! Below is a list of the great send offs that we did get to have and for which we are so thankful. 

What to Do When Not Everyone is Supportive of Your Big Move

This is a very difficult post to write, but I think it is an important one nonetheless because this is real life and this blog is about the realities of moving to a new state where you know no one, not just the happy and exciting moments. It probably goes without saying, but if you are uprooting your life and moving to somewhere completely new, you’re probably going to upset and/or piss off at least one person in your life. When you share these plans with your friends, family, coworkers, and any other category of people in your life, it’s best to be prepared for the worst. Below are four tips I think can be helpful in tackling the difficult conversations with people who aren’t exactly supportive of your move:

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